Introducing Ask Alle - A Poll About Love

[MaeveAlleine]

Originally Posted by Goddess Wills

I "met" and learned more about my fiance in-game than out I think, but our RL meeting did come first...

I find that a really unique thing to say. Can you tell us more?

[MaeveAlleine]

Originally Posted by Moonchilde222

I met my boyfriend at a game...just not an online one! 8)

We do play together though, all the time.

What game? Inquiring minds want to know

Originally Posted by Delmar

Good luck on the new venture. I wish you the best. I met my wife in game and we've been married for about seven years.

That's awesome! Congrats About the same time me n' Drizzet have been together.

[Jodou]

I'm currently single and have no interest in finding someone in-game.

Sorry ladies, this man is a lone wolf.

[Goddess Wills]

Originally Posted by MaeveAlleine

I find that a really unique thing to say. Can you tell us more?

Well, that was the short version. If you want the (very) long version, here it is -

We met briefly at a lunch with some mutual friends, but he lived on the other side of the state, so I got his s/n, and we started chatting on aim frequently. We got to know each other a little and getting more and more frustrated about the distance between us basically RP'd our first date. And a second. Eventually we were spending more time RPing than having regular conversations.

After awhile he was able to come and visit for a day and then again a week or so later. We got tired of the small amounts of time we were able to spend together, so he decided to move back out here (here being where he grew up anyway). He moved in with his pseudo-little-brothers, hoping to take care of them and be a better role model for them than their nearly non-existent mother. After a couple weeks of me spending almost all my time there, getting to know the kids, and looking for an apartment of my own nearby, they (my b/f & the mom) told me I should just move in there, so I did.

After awhile I started to miss playing GuildWars (I lost my account to an ex some months before) and told my b/f that next time we went out I'd like to pick up a copy. Since I'd done nothing but jabber about it for a week, he decided to get one too. He was almost instantly hooked, just like I was, and we started playing together all the time. Considering we were only a few feet away from each other while we played we talked constantly, about everything we could think of to talk about.

As we played, Eliam (aka Jake in RL) slowly (okay very slowly) started to figure out how to play the game, and that there was more to being a Necro than just throwing some random death magic skills in a bar and clicking them at random intervals. I'd been wary of helping him before that, because I was afraid to tell him "how to play" and I was worried he would turn out like most guys I knew and get angry. Slowly he started progressing and I would make little hint here or there, and he seemed genuinely grateful. Eventually we talked about it, and I knew then that he wasn't like anyone I'd ever met before, and definitely not like anyone I'd ever dated. He wasn't worried that I was a girl and I might know more about a game than him (of course I did, I'd been playing it for over a year before we met), or that I could beat him when we had a 1v1. I started to trust that he wouldn't get mad when I told him a new strategy for a mission or build, and at the same time I realized that I could do the same thing in RL and he still wouldn't get mad. In fact, he appreciated it.

As we continued playing we discovered more and more things like this about each other, and we grew closer together. Through our gaming, we'd formed more of a friendship than just a relationship, and that friendship has become the solid foundation on which we've based not only our relationship, but our family. February 19th of this year our son Daniel Jacob was born. We've had a rough time adjusting to this change (we are SO clueless when it comes to being parents), but we set aside time for ourselves frequently, to work on our relationship and to game *ahem* work on our friendship, I mean.

Ten days ago, Jake asked me to marry him (and I've, of course, said yes, I'd be a fool not to), and I know that after we're married nothing is going to change. We will continue to nurture our friendship through our gaming and the other activities that we like to share, and that will in turn nurture our relationship.

[Moonchilde222]

It was at a live action roleplaying game, and we still play. We've played friends, enemies, and spouses in LARP.

[MaeveAlleine]

Congrats on your upcoming wedding Goddess!

In other news, I woke up to seeing the news article about the column has a few comments using words "retarted" and "not needed." Oh well, we will see in time I guess.

[Syldra]

Ah, no worries Maeve. We really do need a steady column
...and alter strikes me as "prolly preteen" anyway.

[Reenala]

Originally Posted by MaeveAlleine

In other news, I woke up to seeing the news article about the column has a few comments using words "retarted" and "not needed." Oh well, we will see in time I guess.

Was always going to happen, Maeve, don't let it get you down. As long as you know that you're actualy giving people good advice, then it's worth it for you and them.

[Sanya]

Everything besides air, water, and food is unnecessary when you get right down to it. This computer is unnecessary - it just makes me fat and blind. The dogs under my desk are unnecessary - they do no chores and provide no services. And MMOs are ABSOLUTELY unnecessary... except for the fact that MMOs changed my life.

/shrug

YMMV.

[tekhedd]

It's missing the option "I met someone in game, met them RL, it totally didn't work, but I'm not ruling out the possibility that it might happen again." I mean, hopefully not with the same sad ending.